Love is too glorified, and exagerated and decietful. Ask a 10 year old what love is, or how heartace feels and they will tell you the sterotpyical view we have created.Love's been made into an object by valentimes cards ,cliche roses, common photographs and "I love you's" which is meant to express these chaotic emotions but will never do the rollacoster justice..
Love is a funny thing. You expect it to be easy and perfect. You expect it to be a world that runs smotheley, full of roses and laughs and warm kisses and perfect moments that you find only in movies.No relationship is ever perfect, and love is certainly not whats its made out to be.
You expect her to always say what you want to hear, and to get along with you perfectly, and to always have somethign to say, to make you feel great and always know exactly how you feel, or exactly how to react to you. And gettign along with eatch other's friends perfectly Or knowing exactly where your futures will end up and having the best sex in the world everynight. You expect her to calm you down when your angry or to come after you when you turn away. You look at her like a perfect being on a pedalstool -this beautiful creature, that lucky you have all to yourself.You expect so much that you feel entirely, and utterly defeated when something doesn't exactly match up with all your plans, not being able to comprehend the situation.
But that's the thing. Love isn't a plan, its not a perfect desitny and its never certain. It doesn't have a clear beginning and it definatly has no end or visible finish line to those deeply in it.Love happens everywhere, it can be seen as a gillmer of hope from a society that can sometimes appear so hateful and uncompassionate. it is so incredibly messy and confusing. People around you can't comprehend why you do the things you do, or why you fight so hard for something that seems to cause you so much pain and problems, because simply, they can't see. They can't see the invisible ring of insanity that surrounds you when you're in love and they will never fully know or understand exactly how you feel.
Love is inconvenient and painful and devastating at times, but we can't live without it. We are born with the capability of love and we cannot deny it. It teatches us about ourselves, and helps make us who we are today. Every relationship gives us a unique experaince, that we share with someone who will forever be a part of ourselves.
What you don't learn is how hard love is. How much work it takes and how much time or effort and strength you put in a relationship. Sometimes, to watch it break away and end. How much it can hurt you. How much of ourselves we have to put into it. How it isn't worth it until we are complete and utter idiots about it. And how we will always look back at it, and long for another chance to saviour the moments we share with the people we love.
Love isn't her calming you down when you shout. It's her yelling, just as loud, just as hard, and just as angry right back at you, right in your face to keep you alive and feeling and to keep you grounded. It isn't her bringing you roses everyday or doing nice things that make your relationship appear more presentable, its about the way you feel and how you both want to do whatever it takes to make eatch other happy. Its not always talkign non stop for hours, because sometimes the comfortable silence is all you need. Its not about having sex everynight, its about connecting with someone physically and emotionally and sharing a bond. Its not about being perfect or lookign great, its about seeing the other persons flaws and wekanesses and loving them,for the true person they are. thats real, honest, true , strong love. You are exposed, vulerable and open to any pain that comes with it.It's after a long fight, that drains the life and bones right out of you both, and yet her showing up at your door the next morning anyway and carrying on. Its about feeling safe, and confident, and wanting to have a future together. It's not her saying all the right things or knowing exactly how to handle you, noone can. So no, it's not her caressing your hair , always makign you smile and telling you everything is going to be alright. It's her standing there, admitting she's just as scared as you are and going through things together.
You have to remember that with love, you're not the only one involved, and theyre sittign right next to you in this rollarcoster. and noone but you will ever know the ride. You put your life, your heart and yourself into the palms of another persons hands and say, "here. Do what you will. Mash it into mince meat. Or forget I ever handed it to you. As long as you have it".Love makes us crazy. It distortes our perceptions and changes our realities and it erases all the lines that we shouldn't cross. Because love isn't about fencing ourselves in; feeling safe, feeling sure about the future and knowing how to act, what to do and what to say. It's about scaring the shit out of every nerve in our body, but pushing forward anyway because you want to.Because all the fighting and all the tears, hardships and all the uncertainty is worth it.
There is a world of a difference between feeling 'happy' and feeling whole. And theres a diffrence between this image of love, and the real thing. And once you find you love someone, and expose yourself to them, nothing will ever replace them, and no other relationship will ever be the same. Any moment, doing anything will be brilliant, just because its shared with them. And once youve met them, you wont be able to picture your life without them.
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